Many ways that people take care of one another are useful and trustworthy. Caretaking can start out as reliable, competent, and unselfish. But anyone who assumes a position of being responsible for another is subject to the corrupting temptations that come with that power.
It is difficult to take responsibility for other people’s well-being without beginning to believe that we know what is best for them. The very need for care seems to discredit their competence or even a right to live their own lives.
When care-taking also implies a position of power or control over another person, the ones in charge would be well advised to question their motives. And, those who continue to be submissive would do well to wonder why they want to let someone else direct their lives.d to take little steps into the shallow end of the pool, testing the waters, before you plunge into the deep end and reveal your most sacred secrets. But eventually, after time and good sense have prevailed, you have to risk intimacy. You must be willing to try and to risk feeling the pain, because the empty alternative hurts much worse.
Neither a jailer nor a prisoner be.