WHAT IF you had been born into another house, another family, would you have been happier? Who knows! But just how happy or unhappy you are with the personality you have and the life you have been dealt is largely a matter of how well you play your cards. It won’t help to hope for a reshuffling of the cards, a new hand, or a better deal.
Fighting fate, trying to will what cannot be willed, complaining that life’s not fair is useless complaining that simply invites needless suffering.
It’s enough to experience the suffering that’s absolutely required without whining, “Why me? Why did this have to happen to me?” Complaining can become a way of boasting about how much suffering you can endure.
When problems arise, the only really useful question is, “What do I do now?”
Life isn’t fair, but how we react to adversity does make a difference.