When we are scared and uncertain, we’re most vulnerable to believing that someone somewhere must be smart enough to know what’s best for us and will be strong enough to come to our rescue. This happens to all of us at times.
Unfortunately, some people spend their lives waiting to be rescued. Stubbornly insisting on trusting almost anyone’s judgment instead of their own, the dependent seekers find themselves let down, exploited, and betrayed again and again. Still the search goes on for someone who is sufficiently wise and kind to be trusted with responsibility. The repeated disappointments hurt, but the prospect of being on their own seems too overwhelming. They believe that having to take care of themselves would turn out even worse.
One person thinks, “I was never properly cared for, so how would I know how?” Another thinks, “I was always taken care of, so I never learned how.” In reality, they already are on their own. Unfortunately, they aren’t consciously aware of how they are choosing to run their lives.
We each must trust ourselves to make our own choices.