“When one has organized his life around something and then it’s lost, it is devastating…. You wonder, ‘What am I going to do now? How can I bear to live?’” These are the questions posed by Arnold Beisser, a physician paralyzed by polio early in his career. After more than thirty years of a full though physically limited life Dr. Beisser described his thought in Flying Without Wings:
The “Why me?” question and the anger are all parts of the bereavement process…But I realized that digging in to try to avoid dying, being preoccupied with that, keeps one from living life.
Life experiences are always transitory and that includes the worst ones as well as the good ones. Things look pretty black at night, then in the morning they look brighter…Depression is the great deceiver.
It is pointless to go on asking, “Why me?” The only worthwhile question is, “Where do I go from here?”