The idea that we’re having an identity crisis has become a popular explanation of times when we’re simply uncertain or troubled. Sometimes this period in a person’s life is a thinly veiled disguise for lack of initiative. Other times it seems like a good excuse for acting irresponsibly, such as taking drugs or having an affair.

Although being reckless isn’t necessary or advisable, everyone needs to take time out to find a self. Unless you are willing to withdraw for a while, you won’t be able to sort out who you really are from the person you’re expected to be. During this time out, you will have to abandon many of the usual social standards, ignore the clamoring of those around you, and be still so you can hear your voice from within. Without this effort, your life will be spent trying to measure up to external standards. If you deny or never discover your true desires, you’ll be left feeling empty and disconnected.

Once a great teacher was asked, “Where does God dwell?” He answered, “God dwells wherever people let Him in. But we can let Him in only where we really stand, in a place where we live a life that is truly our own.”

If we are to find God, first we need 10 find ourselves.