{"id":2602,"date":"1992-07-23T21:28:46","date_gmt":"1992-07-23T21:28:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodsoul.us\/?page_id=2602"},"modified":"2016-06-25T22:51:21","modified_gmt":"2016-06-25T22:51:21","slug":"blues-aint-nothing-but-a-good-soul-feeling-bad-0723","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.goodsoul.us\/?page_id=2602","title":{"rendered":"07\/23"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"BluesAintNothingBookCover\"<\/a>LEARNING TO accept responsibility for taking care of ourselves is one of the most difficult tasks in life. When we were very young, we needed protection, and hopefully our parents provided it. However, this expectation of caretaking, appropriate then, may be the source of later problems.<\/p>\n

As we grew older, many of us assigned our parents the added responsibility for our emotional well-being. If we were sad, we expected them to cheer us up. If we were angry, we counted on them to fix whatever caused us to be upset. Unfortunately, when our parents weren\u2019t around or wouldn\u2019t perform this service any longer, instead of taking care of ourselves, we looked for the closest substitute.<\/p>\n

Believing in the fantasy that someone else is responsible for your feelings gives you the luxury of someone to blame, but blame implies that the other person is in charge and leaves you feeling weak and \u201cone-down.\u201d Life without this illusion will not save you from experiencing pain, but when you do, you\u2019ll have an opportunity to gain from it.<\/p>\n

Nietzsche said, \u201cThat which doesn\u2019t kill me makes me stronger.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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