{"id":1250,"date":"1992-09-16T04:03:01","date_gmt":"1992-09-16T04:03:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodsoul.us\/?p=1250"},"modified":"2013-12-01T15:33:02","modified_gmt":"2013-12-01T15:33:02","slug":"blues-aint-nothing-but-a-good-soul-feeling-bad-0916","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.goodsoul.us\/?page_id=1250","title":{"rendered":"09\/16"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.goodsoul.us\/?page_id=1535\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"1432\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.goodsoul.us\/?attachment_id=1432\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.goodsoul.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/1992\/09\/BluesAintNothingBookCover.jpg?fit=205%2C300&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"205,300\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"BluesAintNothingBookCover\" data-image-description=\"&lt;p&gt;Blues Ain&amp;#8217;t Nothing But a Good Soul Feeling Bad Book Cover&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Blues Ain&amp;#8217;t Nothing But a Good Soul Feeling Bad Book Cover&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.goodsoul.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/1992\/09\/BluesAintNothingBookCover.jpg?fit=205%2C300&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.goodsoul.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/1992\/09\/BluesAintNothingBookCover.jpg?fit=205%2C300&amp;ssl=1\" class=\" wp-image-1432 alignleft\" alt=\"BluesAintNothingBookCover\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.goodsoul.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/1992\/09\/BluesAintNothingBookCover.jpg?resize=70%2C102\" width=\"70\" height=\"102\" \/><\/a>Listening carefully allows us to hear what is not being said. Frequently, we avoid stating our feelings directly for fear we\u2019ll get hurt or hurt someone else, so our most pressing message is obscured or hidden completely.<\/p>\n<p>For instance, when you interrupt a statement to take another tack, it often indicates a deliberate decision to hide an unacceptable feeling.<\/p>\n<p>If you offer a gratuitous denial such as saying, \u201cI\u2019m not angry,\u201d when no one asked if you were, some part of you is made and another part is suppressing open expression of the feeling.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI don\u2019t really feel upset,\u201d indicates that there are ways in which you really do.<\/p>\n<p>Even though we try to disguise the seemingly unacceptable part of our message, our intent is either known or felt. So is another disconcerting message- that we\u2019ve tried, and failed, to obscure the fact that we have a hidden agenda.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em><strong>Gratuitous denials require our attention.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Listening carefully allows us to hear what is not being said. 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