{"id":1246,"date":"1992-09-14T03:56:39","date_gmt":"1992-09-14T03:56:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodsoul.us\/?p=1246"},"modified":"2013-12-01T15:32:46","modified_gmt":"2013-12-01T15:32:46","slug":"blues-aint-nothing-but-a-good-soul-feeling-bad-0914","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.goodsoul.us\/?page_id=1246","title":{"rendered":"09\/14"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"BluesAintNothingBookCover\"<\/a>The temptation to avoid emotional pain is easy to understand, but if we put off confronting acute anguish, often our procrastination costs us much more than we might otherwise have had to pay. It\u2019s like buying assurance on an installment plan. We may get away with not having to make an initial down payment, but the interest can be exorbitant and the periodic outlays seem to go on forever.<\/p>\n

For example, if we are abused by those who matter to us, it\u2019s difficult to give up home that eventually they will treat us well. We insist that someday they will see what they\u2019re doing wrong or that we can find a way to fix whatever we imagine we\u2019ve done to merit being treated badly. Because we cannot imagine ever getting over the acute grief we would have to endure to escape our daily pain, some of us remain in the victim position for a lifetime. Refusing to mourn, instead we go on complaining without changing anything.<\/p>\n

Giving up on an abusive relationship takes courage. Support from others helps, but not enough to spare us the deep disappointment and grief we must endure. It remains our own personal responsibility to decide to risk being alone. But being alone is not the same as being lonely. At least we have ourselves and the option of finding others to love who will treat us better. We can make the difficult choice or go on fussing and hoping for the rest of our lives.<\/p>\n

Some relationships are not worth trying to repair.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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